communication with bf doesnt seem to be easy at all... >< just like communication with everyone else, huh? my bf commented that i treat him and others differently... in a negative way.
he said that i would try best to tolerate or SABAR (means, patient and lenient etc) when im with the others (my friends, his friends, schoolmates etc...) but im short-tempered and gets angry easily with him...
what could be the problem? he said i was being very nice and patient with him when we started around end of may but now im treating him quite differently...
honestly that hurts. that kinda hurts me when he told me that... >< but come to think about it again... i never really realize that anyway...
am i really that bad treating him?
i love him. no doubt that i seriously love him a lot. but what could be the main reason that the ways i treat him got changed, negatively? is it that as he said my love towards him is getting lesser and lesser?
i dont know.
i just know i still love him. :) i love my baby and he loves me too... hehe ^^
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we are constantly having communication problems since some time after we got together... in short, im not that used to communicate, as in those really deep interpersonal (2 persons) communications... >< haix~ (long sigh~) besides, im very poor in controlling and managing my temper too... always show 'angry' face and scold him...
i just dont think that im a good guy for him - for he is being very mature kind of guy (despite the fact that he's only 21 and im 20) and im just being too childish comparing with him... huh? haix~ (a long long sigh again...)
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we just fought over a little thing 10 minutes ago... the scenario is like this... he opened and listened a mp3 song which i dont like much. he wanted to copy the song into the pendrive in my car (im using a mp3-fm modulator in my car).
he: i like this song.
me: i dont like this song.
he: i like this song a lot...
me: i dont really like this song...
he: carmen (a classmate of mine) likes this song too...
me: then you go to carmen's car and listen with her lah. *seriously i dont recall any angry or frustration emotions or words from there... nothing much at least?
followed by a silent moment... ><
then i told him, delete the songs lah.
"huh?"
"dowan listen d lah. delete everything lah." (bla bla...)
...
and then we started argueing about that... he started to say things like "im wondering whether those straight couples communicate and fight like us"... ... he was like... asking how could i be frustrating just for this one sentence of bla bla... being a bit frustrated i was talking back things (SLIGHTLY louder) like... "i where got angry lah... you are so sensitive lah..."
haix~ until now i also dont really remember what d. haha... ><
bleh~ what can do? how do i actually control my temper my anger? :( i do admit that i have very low emotional quotient (EQ)... but im getting better lah if compared to last time hehe... improved from EXTREMELY SUCKINGLY LOW EQ to now, VERY LOW EQ... at least got improvements. :P
hmm hmm... what can do now... >< bleh~ it sucks.
5 comments:
of course straight couples also fight like that lahh sometimes even over small little things. ehh its true though ur temper is super short. not much people can tolerate or understand when u say some things but actually don't mean it. me on the other hand, understand you soooooooooooooo well. hahaha.
Haiz...dun wry.... U luv him rite? Try 2 change abit 4 him. He luvs u rite? Ask him 2 tell u when u start 2 "change" into "angry/grumpy/cranky mode"....both sides kena la communicate!!!
good understanding and communication is the crucial elements to maintain your relationship. tony, control your temper la... i just learnt how to control my temper from very low to low compare to my last relationship LOL
wish you all the best tony, hope you and your baby are okay now.
Serious u said that???? Hmmm..
I told someone close to me before that when a customer walks into your working place, and assume your boss is watching.. how do you talk?
With extreme gentleness and care.. treat him like that... that he is precious enough to you that if the world hurts him with ugly words, your words will comfort him.
thank you guys... i will try my best to maintain this precious relationship :)
cheers~
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